Dating Techniques

A lot of guys wonder about whether they’re spending too much, or not enough on a first date. Match.com just came out with the results of a survey they conducted with 550 men during March 2011, and hopefully it will help guys figure out if they’re on par with their competition. I think women will also find the results helpful to see if they’ve been getting lowballed by their man. As you read through the results, remember that it can be difficult to generate a nationwide average since date standards vary widely by region.

After reading into the results a little bit, I did find a few interesting tidbits I wouldn’t have guessed before reading it. As a male, I always think of men spending more per date since we’re usually picking up the check, but the study states 58% of men spend over $50 per date during the first few weeks, while 65% of women spend over $50 to get ready for the date in outfits and grooming. Yikes, now I feel a little cheap.

You’ll also notice 75% of girls would rather not have a date at a fancy restaurant. Somewhat surprising at first, but if you think about it, fancy restaurants generally aren’t the best place to see the true personality of your potential partner. Girls now seem to be more interested in having an “experience,” or doing a fun, outgoing activity to see if you two are compatible. This is also a good reminder that doing things like going to the movie theater where interaction is limited, can be a bad idea. A lot of times if a guy doesn’t feel confident, they feel the movie can entertain the girl while they sit back and relax, but it just doesn’t work like that unfortunately.

I think the most important stat in the entire study was that 3 times more men than women felt that the there are expectations of how much the dates will cost during the initial weeks. Just another indication that guys should spend a lot more time trying to find something out of the ordinary during those important first dates. I’m planning to write some articles over the next few weeks detailing some great ideas that are light on the pocketbook, and work better than most traditional dates.

Guys, if you’ve ever texted a girl that you liked but didn’t take the time to think of anything creative to say, you may be missing a huge opportunity.  Most guys write the same boring stuff and expect it to become a bridge to getting closer to the girl.  In most cases, they’re wrong.  A well crafted set of texts can do a lot for your chances, but you have to have an idea of what direction to go, so we’ve put together some examples that should help.  ”Hey, Sup?” will hopefully be out of your texting arsenal after this.

The first thing you should know is that boring texts that may be nerve-racking and exciting for you, won’t get you very far unless the girl is already wanting to go out with you.  If that’s the case I doubt you’re reading this article. The second thing you really need to keep in mind is that soon after you start texting, you need to be moving toward a physical meeting of some kind so don’t plan to spend the next week texting it up hoping that quantity will outperform quality. It won’t.

Funny and memorable is your goal.  It might seem difficult, especially if you aren’t used to being forward with girls, but if you don’t want to get left in the friend zone it must be done.

Instead of saying, “Good Morning, How’s it going?”

You might say, “Woke up and it turns out I’m doing 8-12% more amazing this morning .  How’s your morning?”

Her reply: “LOL, it’s great! Have you been up to anything except basketball?”

Your reply the next day:  ”Just doing laundry, I got a homeless guy to fold my clothes for a french fry.  Some red panties got in there… now everything is a shade of pink.”

Her reply: “haha, doing laundry? I didn’t think most guys did their own laundry”

Your reply: “I’ve always done my own laundry, but something about you tells me you could probably improve my washing strategy.  Maybe you could come check out my laundry skills and we can exchange notes…”

This is just a short example, but it gives you an idea of what your thought process should be while texting.  Always be aiming the conversion towards setting up a time to meet.  You can plan it out and text a few times to set it up, but those are the texts you can use to show your humor and captivate her.

This is a huge topic with a ton of strategies to look into, so we plan to delve deeper into the texting world in upcoming articles.